Why Buttahfly?
About my metamorphosis ... and that spelling!
*Note - this was initially written when I started my blog, back around 2010. I’ve had plenty of other metamorphoses since then, but it’s still the best way to explain how I became a Buttahfly.
I’ve had body image/weight issues my whole life (who hasn’t?). In my adult life, I’ve been 100lbs, 200+lbs, and everywhere in between. I’ve been anorexic, bulimic, and “afraid to diet” for fear of returning to those extremes ... and miserable all along.
This was me at my worst (well, my worst as of this writing, anyway — 10 years on steroids have since made it much worse than that). Believe it or not, it was Christmas Day - can’t you see the festive spirit? I got married a few months later, busting out of my plus-sized dress, and though I felt awful about myself, hubby thought I was the most beautiful woman in the world (yep - he’s a keeper!).
In 2001, I joined Weight Watchers, and it truly changed my life ... and though the weight came back, the changes inside stay with me to this day. We didn’t just talk about food and weight; we talked about all the things in life that mess us up emotionally, causing us to overeat, beat ourselves up, and measure our self-worth by the size of our jeans. It was there that I “learned” that I actually mattered, no matter what I looked like (of course, I still wanted to look - and feel - better).
At one of the meetings, another member talked about the life cycle of a butterfly in relation to her weight loss. She said that all her life she felt like a miserable caterpillar - never wanting to go anywhere or do anything, feeling insecure and unworthy because of her weight. As she nourished both body and mind with lifestyle changes, she was transformed. For the first time ever, she said, she felt like a beautiful butterfly both inside and out. And she was.
In that moment, I decided: I wanted to be a butterfly. It was more than a goal; it was a mission ... a calling ... a new identity. Newly motivated, I worked even harder towards this metamorphosis. Though I didn’t reach my “goal weight” for nearly a year, I believe the butterfly emerged sooner. I wasn’t just doing this for myself anymore. I was inspiring others in my group the same way the butterfly had inspired me. If I could do this, they could too. Sure, it took effort ... but we were worth it.
Along the way, I’d become “friends” with some people through an online message board for people with 50+ pounds to lose. We tried calling our group “50 Plus” but people thought we were referring to our age, so we had to get more creative. Someone mentioned that 200 sticks of butter weigh 50lbs, so we went with that. Then a New York accent proudly said “buttah” instead. And so, the “200 Sticks of Buttah Buddies” was born (later shortened to Buttah Buds). Since these “buds” were so instrumental in helping me transform, I dedicated my spelling to them. I wasn’t just a butterfly ... I was a buttahfly.
Soon after reaching goal, I started working for WW. It wasn’t enough for me to help only my friends in those two groups. If I could help even more people make the changes necessary to feel as incredible as I did, how could I possibly not do that? The butterfly story spread, and I’m convinced that many of my members didn’t even know my real name. They knew me as The Buttahfly, and soon they were flying with me.
Over the years, people have brought me facts, gifts, and stories about butterflies - some cute, some silly, some absolutely exquisite. There was one quote, though, that says it better than I ever could. It’s from Trina Palaus’ Hope For The Flowers:
You have such a charming writing style! I have had my body altered ( mainly let out) by steroids. They work- I’d take them in a minute- but I was not prepared for all the side effects.